{"id":13841,"date":"2019-11-07T05:59:53","date_gmt":"2019-11-07T12:59:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/?p=13841"},"modified":"2019-10-31T08:40:54","modified_gmt":"2019-10-31T15:40:54","slug":"eva-gold-rip","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/?p=13841","title":{"rendered":"Eva Gold RIP"},"content":{"rendered":"

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On October 6, 2019 my Mother-in-Law Eve Judit Gold died of old age. She lived and amazing life of danger, change and happiness. Here is a YouTube video<\/a> I made of her life. Here is where she has been featured on this blog<\/a>. Click on read more and see what I said at her funeral.<\/p>\n

We are missing her every day but this too will pass.<\/p>\n

Thank you to the people at Mt Sinai who do the work so we can mourn, to the Rabbi who took the time learn about Eva\u2019s amazing life, to our religion for giving us rituals to ease us through transitions like this and to all of you for coming out today.
\nAfter Jack died I got to spend a lot of time with Eva. And I learned a lot.<\/p>\n

I\u2019d like to start with three little known facts about her and then share with you some of pieces of her wisdom from the nursing home that I think are postcard worthy.<\/p>\n

She loved America
\nShow: Naturalization announcement<\/p>\n

She loved learning. At age 44 in 1971 she received her high school diploma\u00a0Show Diploma<\/p>\n

And third she was secretly quite competitive. There was part of her that wanted to be better than others and part of her that wanted to be invisible.
\nShe was very proud that while most of the of the people in assisted living had to use canes or walkers she didn\u2019t. In fact a year or so ago we had to make her this sign so she would use the walker.\u00a0Show Sign<\/p>\n

Speaking of assisted living. As the dementia took away her memory the gaps got larger and larger. At the end she could still remember her mother\u2019s older sister (aunt Lilli) but not what she\u2019d had for breakfast. In fact she couldn\u2019t even remember if she\u2019d had breakfast.
\nBut even though this cruel disease had taken most of her memory her mind was still working and speaking truths.<\/p>\n

She said \u201cWrite the names on the back of photos. because people soon won\u2019t know who they are.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cOnly keep the photos with people in them.\u201d<\/p>\n

I tried to talk her into wearing a hearing aid. She refused and said \u201cI don\u2019t miss what I don\u2019t hear.\u201d<\/p>\n

At the end of a visit I\u2019d say \u201cokay Oma I\u2019ll see you later.\u201d I\u2019m always here\u201d she\u2019d reply and have a laugh at her little joke.<\/p>\n

One of her oft repeated and unanswerable questions was: \u201cWhy do people live so long? My parents died in their 60\u2019s\u201d<\/p>\n

Often when I came to visit her she was sitting in an easy chair in the lobby where she could look with pride at her photo on the veterans wall. It was also a spot where nobody could easily sit next to her. She didn\u2019t really want to talk to those \u201cold ladies.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI speak German, English and Hebrew.
\nI don\u2019t even remember learning any of those languages but I still know them.\u201d<\/p>\n

How are you Oma? \u201cI\u2019m fed up.\u201d<\/p>\n

Even as the horrors of dementia ate away her memory she faced it with a quiet dignity.<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t know what I do without these books?\u201d She couldn\u2019t remember how to turn on the TV. But she read all day. Often the same book over and over again.<\/p>\n

About the assisted living home she said \u201cIt\u2019s a good thing they have places like this for people like me.\u201d
\nAnd I say: “it\u2019s a good thing we have women like Eva Gold.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

On October 6, 2019 my Mother-in-Law Eve Judit Gold died of old age. She lived and amazing life of danger, change and happiness. Here is a YouTube video I made of her life. Here is where she has been featured on this blog. Click on read more and see what I said at her funeral. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false},"categories":[193,4,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-13841","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-decline","category-family","category-simon-says"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p99jGb-3Bf","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13841","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=13841"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13841\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":13843,"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/13841\/revisions\/13843"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=13841"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=13841"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/simonburrow.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=13841"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}